"Connecting WITH our children around their interests, instead of fighting AGAINST them." This is so important for children of every age, and for interests of all kinds (not just video games). When the parent takes on the role of the observer (or the student, as you aptly described), taking note of the things their child is naturally drawn to, then the parent can invite the child into similar activities that broaden the child's horizons. Maybe the child loves the fantasy world of their video game, so the parent can recommend one of their favorite fantasy novels from when they were a child. Or maybe its the idea of getting better and better at a skill that entices the child to keep playing -- so the parent can encourage the child to set weekly goals for themselves, and continue trying to achieve their personal best (a mini-masterclass in goal setting).
"Connecting WITH our children around their interests, instead of fighting AGAINST them." This is so important for children of every age, and for interests of all kinds (not just video games). When the parent takes on the role of the observer (or the student, as you aptly described), taking note of the things their child is naturally drawn to, then the parent can invite the child into similar activities that broaden the child's horizons. Maybe the child loves the fantasy world of their video game, so the parent can recommend one of their favorite fantasy novels from when they were a child. Or maybe its the idea of getting better and better at a skill that entices the child to keep playing -- so the parent can encourage the child to set weekly goals for themselves, and continue trying to achieve their personal best (a mini-masterclass in goal setting).