How to Handle Rude Behavior
12 Bonus Minutes of My Conversation with Adam Grant
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On last week's episode of Raising Good Humans Podcast, Adam Grant turns the tables on me and does the interviewing.
Here's what I had to say about rude behavior in an exclusive BEHIND-THE-SCENES CLIP.
Quick Take-Away's
When kids are rude at home, not outside, it's a healthy sign of development
Don't meet your child in the rudeness
Accept that you can't teach a lesson in the heat of the moment
Remember, it's your child's job to push boundaries
Don't take rude talk personally
Effective responses:
Take a breath
Assess your reaction (are you being triggered?)
Remember that in a dysregulated state, your child can't hear you
Diffuse it/don't engage. Try a mantra that allows you to laugh and shake it off.
Express the limit. "You can feel all of that, but you need to put it elsewhere (a journal, yell into a pillow, etc.). That is not something you can say out loud to me."
Offer a do-over. "Do you want to try that one more time in a way that I may receive it better?"
